One of the dangers of being an author in the digital age is the easy access to a bunch of other people’s opinions.
As wonderful as writing forums can be in giving isolated writers a community they can be as much of a hindrance as a help. On writing forums, over and over, I see posts that begin with the words “Can I do THIS?” Whatever “this” is, sometimes it’s plot related, sometimes it’s character related. Whatever it is, I think it’s more important for authors to MAKE THEIR OWN DECISIONS and sink or swim by their own choices. Otherwise you never learn anything. If you have a great off-the-wall idea that you aren’t sure about and you go on a forum posting “Can my character do X?” And everyone says ‘no’ you have killed the idea before it ever had a chance to be born! You don’t know what other ideas following that one idea would have led you to because you let a bunch of people you don’t know tell you what to do.
Get OFF the forums- it doesn’t matter which one your on, STOP ASKING PERMISSION from other people for your own writing and just write! Don’t listen to what other people say until you have a manuscript worthy of trusted beta readers who aren’t random strangers you found on a writing forum.
Let your work grow organically and DO WHAT YOU WANT with the first draft! You can edit the second draft. That’s what it’s there for.